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How Do I Deal with the Changes in My Life ? – קואצ’ינג לחיים

As a life coach and career counselor in Tel Aviv Israel, I help many of my clients deal with dramatic changes in their lives.  Let’s  go into some of the things that I think will be important when asking yourself, How Do I Deal with the Changes in My Life ? – קואצ’ינג לחיים

Firstly, are you afraid of different things happening in your life?  If so, then imagine how that might impact your life.

Secondly, you might be thinking about moving to Israel.  Perhaps you are thinking about going after a new job, that could increase the quality of your life?  These things require adaptability to take place… and this can be scary.  Life revisions can be scary.

Therefore, try to look at the same situations that require revisions, from a different perspective.   I want to speak together with you about replacing the word “change/changing”, with the word “pivot/pivoting”.


What is Pivoting?

First you should know that Websters definition of a “pivot” –  a shaft or pin on which something turns.

 What the hell am I talking about a piece of a door frame???  I’ll elaborate, but before I do… below is A list of 25 Ways That You Can Enjoy Your Life More During a Sudden Pivot.  

Its from Lifehack, here’s the link :

  1. Focus on Yourself

Other people will always be on hand to offer up their opinions and advice. Ultimately, however, it’s you who has to live with the consequences of your decisions.

  1. Make Time to Relax

Making time to relax and reconnect with ourselves leaves us better equipped to deal with more challenging periods in life.

  1. Avoid the News

It’s all too easy to get sucked into public drama, online and offline. Trust that if something important happens, you’ll know about it. Otherwise, save your energy and spend your time on something more worthwhile than doom scrolling.

  1. Nurture Your Positive Relationships

Make time to nurture the positive relationships you have with friends and family. Identify the people who lift you up and focus your energy on them.

  1. Meet New People

Community is one of the most important needs we have. Making a consistent effort to meet new people helps us fulfill that need and introduces us to new ideas and perspectives.

  1. Explore New Places

Walk through a new part of town, watch a documentary, go camping in a nearby national park. It doesn’t have to be far to offer you a great experience.

  1. Keep a Wish List

Whenever you think of something you’d like to try, or a place you’d like to visit, write it down and keep a collection. It keeps the dream alive and stops it fizzling out as a forgotten thought.

  1. Try New Things

Commit to trying a certain number of items from your wish list each year to make sure they don’t just stay as wishes.

  1. Spend Money on Experiences, Not Possessions

Objects won’t help you make memories, but experiences will, and those are things that really allow you to enjoy life like no one else.

  1. Cut Down Your Junk

Physical clutter equals mental clutter. Reducing the amount of stuff around us fosters a calmer mental state, too. By tidying up around the house, you can increase your focus, productivity, and positive emotions.

  1. Make Time for Gratitude

Creating a routine of writing down three things you feel grateful for each day helps you focus more on what’s good in your life.

  1. Track How You’re Spending Your Time

When we’re conscious of how we’re spending our hours, we can make the most of the time we have on this planet.

  1. Be Deliberate in Your Choices

Be deliberate in your life choices: remember that it’s your life and no-one else’s.

How Do I Deal with the Changes in My Life ? – קואצ’ינג לחיים

  1. Invest in Yourself

The more self-aware and self-accepting we are, the happier we are. Make time to read personal development books, journal, and focus on being compassionate towards yourself.

  1. Remember That All Feelings Pass

A key part of enjoying life is accepting that we’re not going to feel 100% happy 100% of the time.

  1. Celebrate Small Wins

Make time to celebrate your wins—no matter how small, and focus on enjoying the journey rather than the destination.

  1. Allow Yourself to Feel Happy

Many of us find it challenging to enjoy a calm, “normal” life. Give yourself permission to enjoy a drama-free existence and focus on finding pleasure in your daily experiences.

  1. Practice Mindfulness

Noticing how we feel and what’s around us right now is an effective way of getting out of our heads, detaching from our worries, and returning to the experience of what it’s truly like to be alive, which is key when we want to enjoy life as much as possible.

  1. Get Outside

Feel the wind on your face, the sun on your skin, and enjoy a good dose of Vitamin D and fresh air. Science has found that being out in nature reduces stress and increases overall well-being.

  1. Speak Your Mind

Speak up and feel uncomfortable in the short-term and you’ll enjoy life more in the long-term.

  1. Record Happy Moments

This way, when you’re feeling down, you’ll have something to look back on to lift your spirits and help you enjoy life.

  1. Get Active

Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural pain-relieving and stress-busting chemicals. Even if you’re short on time, a 20 minute walk or a few jumping jacks can do wonders for your mood.

  1. Keep Learning

Find enjoyment through a sense of purpose, and make time to explore subjects that interest you. After all, you never know where your interest might lead!

  1. Practice Compassion

When we can feel compassion for ourselves and compassion for others, even difficult situations become rewarding and, ultimately, more enjoyable.

  1. Give Back

Even though some of the activities might not be that enjoyable or exciting, the simple act of giving back is a reward in itself.


So what is “Pivoting” ?

 When I refer to pivoting, I am speaking about a slight shifting.  An adjustment in angle, not being about to reverse time by doing a 180 degree shift.  A continuing movement in a forward direction, but at a different angle.

How do I deal with the changes in my life using this idea of “Pivoting”?

Perhaps the old saying is so true,  “that sometimes you do have to take one or two steps backward, in order to take many many more forward….”

Well I disagree, for you have merely pivoted.  In addition, by this train of thought changes can ONLY be pivots’ in our lives.

You might be going through a shift to the right or swing into the left direction, but you cannot stop moving forward in time… can you?  Don’t hesitate if you need to start from the beginning, do it.

Final Tip:   Try to gain some new skills, some more skills.  Moreover, preferably making yourself even more valuable to the marketplace.

Now get out there and enjoy your life, and enjoy your day.

-Claude Massey Consulting

How Do I Deal with the Changes in My Life ? – קואצ’ינג לחיים

Hi, my name is Claude Lee Massey and thanks for reading the article above!  I wrote the article because I wanted to help you. 

You see, I’ve been living in Tel Aviv for 10+ years and I know it can be a struggle living here as a foreigner.  Finding a job, living a happy life, and developing great relationships… are not always easy to do.

I remember the day I arrived in Israel I had NO money – NO friends – and NO job.

So, how did I go from that point to becoming a life coach (קואצ’ינג לחיים) and career coach (אימון אישי לקריירה)?

Here is my story:

About seven years ago (and after 15+ years of soul-searching), I had a powerful self-realization that I was put here on this planet to teach and to share the knowledge I have.   

Moreover, after this powerful revelation hit me I began to feel a powerful inner calling.  A relentless voice inside of me saying, “I have to open my own consulting business”.

Therefore, with my 15+ years of experience in the field of sales and customer service I decided to open a sales training company.

At this point, I had a full time job working for a high-tech company so on my day off, I found an accountant.  Then I hired him and had him file the proper paperwork to open a sales training company with the government.

I never thought that I would open my own business in Israel… but I did! 

I decided to name my sales training company Sales Development Israel, and I began to use all of my spare time before work and after work creating training materials, and trying to acquire clients.

In addition, I was sending emails and cold calling companies in Tel Aviv, Herzliya, Ramat Gan, Jerusalem, Bat Yam, and Holon.

I was working like a maniac and doing everything in my power to generate momentum.  Great news is that I was able to find my first few clients!

However, something I immediately noticed was at the conclusion of my sales training workshops, two things would happen consistently happen: 

Firstly, I would receive feedback that my sales training workshops were providing massive value for the sales team.

This meant that the companies were happy with the service I provided… which was nice to know.

Secondly, one or two of the students in the courses would privately approach me.  These students would speak with me about their struggles not only in sales, but also in their lives.

Then one time, a female student offered to pay me for a one-on-one session outside of the office.  As a struggling entrepreneur, I accepted.  

She asked me to help her learn how to communicate more effectively, and to help her figure out a better career path.  We developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 

Another student, at another company, approached me and offered to pay me for my time to help prepare him for a job interview.  We developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 

Yes, he was planning to leave the sales job that he was at and yes, I helped him to do so.

Similarly, another student from another workshop, at another company, asked me to help them build their inner-confidence.  We developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 

This would happen again, and again…

Each of these wonderful people I began to work one-on-one with,  had their own unique challenge, and asked me for help.  Each time we developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 

They all knew that I was not certified or professionally trained, and still they would approach me, and offer to pay me for my time.

These first clients would call me their “Life Coach” or “Career Counselor“, and I was able to help them! 

At the conclusion of our 3 to 5 one-on-one sessions, they each had taken took massive steps forward towards the results they wanted.

Each time we developed a plan, strategized, and executed successfully! 

Eventually, enough people paid me to sit down with them, and called me their Career Counselor or Life Coach… that I began to call myself a “Career Counselor” and ”Life Coach”.

Most people set out to become a trained and certified life coach (קואצ’ר , אימון אישי) or career counselor before ever having a client. 

However, I never said I wanted to be a life coach (אימון אישי לחיים) or a career counselor… this interesting and fulfilling profession came to me, literally.

In conclusion, that is the super-short story of how I began life coaching (תל אביב קואצ’ינג לחיים) and career counseling in Tel Aviv Israel.

Furthermore, after all these years, I’m happy to say I have helped hundreds of people just like you!



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