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The Two Best Ways to Influence Yourself – קואצ’ר באנגלית

I am 100% percent sure that you would love to influence other people in your life however, the most important person that you can ever influence is yourself.

When speaking about self-influence, we are talking about you taking specific actions towards building new habits, and I would like wish that new habits are easy to establish and solidify, but they are not.


Developing a new habit s typically quite hard to do, and will take 90 – 120 days of consistent actions and efforts. So if you are ready to start, let’s get into it.


The first way to influence your-self is to have a good self-dialogue, and great self-talk.


This means that one voice in your head is having empowering conversations with the other voice in your head. Having the right kind of self-talk is going to be crucial to influence yourself.


Some people have very harsh self-talk and very negative internal dialogue. They constantly put down themselves, and say harsh things to themselves. I do not support doing this.


It is okay to be stern in your internal dialogue, but I don’t like the idea of self-criticizing.


Instead, I suggest developing a series of good refocusing messages during your self-talk. I recommend creating internal messages that give you focusing and refocusing powers.


Having an internal dialogue that will keep you on track, and realign you when off track… is the goal you should have. This is why I recommend using affirmations.


What are affirmations?


Affirmations are messages that you give yourself repetitively in order to change the way that you think, and in order to change the way that you perceive yourself.


What is the purpose of affirmations?


Doing self-affirmations will influence your subconscious mind. If you repeat messages in your conscious mind, those messages will become beliefs in your subconscious mind.

Using affirmations, you can begin to influence your own subconscious mind, and therefore change your own belief systems for the better… I hope.


How do I write a self-affirmation?


The key thing in affirmative self-messaging is to create a message that you have already achieved the goal you want. You will tell yourself that you have already accomplished the state of being which you desire.


What is an example of a positive self-affirmative message?

“I am ABC…”
“I have ABC…”


Fill in “ABC” with the goal that you want to achieve. Therefore, if you were trying to lose weight you would say, “I am thin and fit”. If you want to be wealthy, you could write, “I have financial abundance”.


I recommend starting with just a few positive affirmations, and writing them down on a piece of paper. Then read that paper repeatedly, for no less than 2 to 5 minutes per day. Simply repeat the message(s) again, and again, and again.


Final advice about affirmations:


If you are in a private location, read the paper with your positive self-affirmations aloud so the impact on your subconscious mind will be even stronger.


The second way to influence your-self is by taking massive action towards your desires/goals.


I recommend you to do this by using a five-second rule.


Don’t give yourself time to come up with reasons why you shouldn’t do something that you know you should. Instead, count to the number five in your head and then take immediate action.




You’re going to need to take action upon the things that you want to achieve. Moreover, when you do take massive action it will have tremendous influence on how you think and feel. This is because you will be conquering hesitation, and defeating fear.


Taking control and overcoming the natural tendency to delay/procrastinate will give you better self-esteem and more confidence… so take massive action as often as you can!


Your Personal Challenge:


Use the two self-influence techniques listed above to begin changing the person you are today, into the person that you want to be in the future. They work! Trust me, I know!


About the Author of : The Two Best Ways to Influence Yourself – קואצ’ר באנגלית


Hi, my name is Claude Lee Massey and thanks for reading the article above!  I wrote the article because I wanted to help you.  You see, I’ve been living in Tel Aviv for 10+ years and I know it can be a struggle living here as a foreigner.


I remember the day I arrived in Israel I had NO money – NO friends – and NO job.



So, let’s get into a great question that I often ask myself.

“How did I go from having no money, no friends, and no job to having all three. 

Moreover, “How the heck did I end up becoming a life coach (קואצ’ינג לחיים) and career coach (אימון אישי לקריירה)…?


Here is the long story short version, of the important part of my story:


So let’s get into it and let me start at the beginning.  Once upon a time, about seven years ago (and after 15+ years of soul-searching), I had a powerful self-realization.


That the purpose of my life, was meant to be lived through helping other people get what they want from life… by any means necessary.   Therefore, with my 15+ years of experience in the field of sales,  and customer service I decided to open a sales training company.



At this point, I had a full time job working for a high-tech company so on my day off, I found an accountant.  Then I hired him and had him file the proper paperwork to open a sales training company with the government.



I never thought that I would open my own business in Israel… but I did!  I decided to name my sales training company Sales Development Israel.  Then, I began to use all of my spare time before work and after work creating training materials, and trying to acquire clients.


In addition, I was sending emails and cold calling companies in Tel Aviv, Herzliya, Ramat Gan, Jerusalem, Bat Yam, and Holon.  Basically, I was reaching our across the whole country of Israel during my efforts.


I doing everything in my power to generate momentum. in my new business  Great news is that I was able to find my first few clients!  However, something I immediately noticed was at the conclusion of my sales training workshops, two things would happen consistently happen: 



Firstly, I would receive feedback that my sales training workshops were providing massive value for the sales team.  This meant that the companies were happy with the service I provided, which was nice to know.



Secondly, one or two of the students in the courses would privately approach me.  These students would speak with me about their struggles not only in sales, but also in their lives.


Then one time, a female student offered to pay me for a one-on-one session outside of the office.  As a struggling entrepreneur, I accepted.  


She asked me to help her learn how to communicate more effectively, and to help her figure out a better career path.  We developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 


Another student, at another company, approached me and offered to pay me for my time to help prepare him for a job interview.  We developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 



Similarly, another student from another workshop, at another company, asked me to help them build their inner-confidence.  We developed a plan, strategized, and executedThis would happen again, and again…


Each of these wonderful people I began to work one-on-one with,  had their own unique challenge, and asked me for help.  Each time we developed a plan, strategized, and executed. 


They all knew that I was not certified or professionally trained, and still they would approach me, and offer to pay me for my time.  These first clients would call me their “Life Coach” or “Career Counselor“, and I was able to help them!



At the conclusion of our 3 to 5 one-on-one sessions, they each had taken took massive steps forward towards the results they wanted.  Each time we developed a plan, strategized, and executed successfully! 


Eventually, enough people paid me to sit down with them, and  then called me their Career Counselor or Life Coach that I began to call myself a “Career Counselor” and ”Life Coach”.


In addition, most people set out to become a trained and certified life coach (קואצ’ר , אימון אישי) or career counselor before ever having a client.  I never did any of that kind of stuff, and that wasn’t the path I took to arrive where I am.


I never once said to myself that I wanted to be a life coach (אימון אישי לחיים) or a career counselor even one time.  On the contrary, this beautiful, interesting, and fulfilling profession that I currently have came directly to me.



So that is the super-short story of how I began life coaching (תל אביב קואצ’ינג לחיים) and career counseling in Tel Aviv Israel, and after all these years I’m happy to say I have helped hundreds and hundreds of people just like you!





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